In many ways, the black curls that form on our heads are like a giant, heavy weight in our life.
They are a reminder of who we are, of who has a family and who is not.
But the curls can also become a barrier to a social life, a reminder that we are still in a vulnerable state.
“The hair is a powerful thing,” says Lisa Gabb, a social psychologist and author of the new book, Black Hair, White Lies: A Neurobiological Basis for Understanding and Treating Blackness.
“It can give people an excuse to be mean and rude to you.
It can be a way to hide the fact that you’re struggling to cope.”
Here are some ways to make your hair feel more manageable.
Make your hair easier to get rid of.
It’s not enough to just remove the hair.
“If your hair is in a way that’s hard to get off, you might be thinking about whether you want to remove it or not,” says Gabb.
In the book, she explains that your hair may feel like a “frozen block,” which makes it easier to remove.
It also makes your hair harder to remove if you have other issues with hair loss.
So instead of trying to get the hair off, try to reduce the weight of it, which will also help your scalp relax.
“There are certain types of people who will find a way around this,” says Michael Bitzer, a hair and makeup stylist and author.
“You can’t just say, ‘It’s all mine.’
It’s a lot of work.”
A little bit of styling can be all it takes.
“A little bit goes a long way,” says Bitzer.
The right hair colour can be just as important as the right shampoo.
“For a lot people, it’s really important to get hair that looks good,” says Kip Andersen, a stylist based in Los Angeles and author on the book Hair.
“They may not think it’s important that their hair looks good, but it is.
They want it to look natural and clean.”
For those who want to avoid using hair removal products, Bitzer suggests using products that don’t have chemicals in them that can break down hair.
Some of these include pomade and conditioner.
“We’re not saying that the black people shouldn’t do this,” Andersen says.
“But it’s not a big deal.
The most important thing is that you know what you’re getting into.”
If you want your hair to feel lighter and more manageable, you can opt for the “light hair” look.
This look can look much more natural than the straight or curly hair you’ve been rocking.
To achieve this look, use a hair brush that has a light brown brush tip, which can create a very “lighter” effect.
If you can find a product that is lighter and less harsh than your natural hair, this can be an easy way to get that “lazy” look without breaking the bank.
Be wary of the “dark hair” trend.
“Many people who are dark have had their hair pulled or styled to a dark brown,” Andersen adds.
“So they may not want to take the risk of having their hair removed.”
But don’t go overboard.
“Even if you are dark, there is no harm in going with a lighter hair style,” Andersen advises.
“Try not to get too dark.”
A hair colour should also help to make the hair feel lighter.
Andersen suggests adding an orange-red or a light grey to your hair colour.
“This is really important,” Andersen explains.
“That orange-brown colour is your ‘hair colour.’
If you have dark hair, it doesn’t matter what colour you use.”
If your hair has a slight golden undertone, or if you’re wearing a “black belt” to look darker, Andersen says you can still look like a darker person without looking like you’ve lost the hair in the first place.
“What we want to do is make sure that we’re not making it seem like you’re not human,” Andersen continues.
“Make sure you’re creating a healthy image that’s in keeping with your character.
And then, it will help to balance the dark hair with the lighter hair.”